By Kathleen Parrish
Have you been upset and depressed since your boyfriend broke up with you? Are you nervous all the time and full of anxiety that he is gone for good? Do you worry that he will find someone new and forget all about you? This thought might be too much for you to handle at times and the emotional pain tears you up inside when you think about it.
I know that the pain from your breakup can be excruciating. It might be so painful that you have wished that you didn't love him. You might have even tried not loving him anymore. You tried telling yourself that it would be less painful to forget about him and try to move on with your life but your heart simply won't let him go. He occupies your every thought every moment of the day and there's no escape from the pain. Or is there?
Even though this pain might seem to be too much to handle at times the fact is that it is all of your own making. This pain is something that you have created based upon what you think and feel. It isn't really based in reality. It is fear that the man that you love won't be a part of your life in the future and you don't know what the future holds. You have no way of knowing for sure what is going to happen. You actually do stand a very good chance of winning him back and what you feel is impossible is actually very probable if you can get past this fear.
While fear can be a good emotion or motivating factor in your life when you are in a dangerous situation, it isn't very helpful to you when we're talking about a relationship. In a dangerous situation, fear will cause you to do anything to avoid pain or harm. In a relationship though, fear will make you do crazy things out of desperation to try to cling to someone which usually pushes them away even more. This just isn't going to be helpful to you if you love your boyfriend and your goal is to get him back.
But, what can you do to get past this fear? How can you disable it and keep from being motivated by fear and instead be motivated by love? The first step is to understand what is going on and tell yourself that it is only fear based upon what you don't want to happen that is making you feel this way. Remember that the reality of this whole situation is something very different than what your fearful mind is telling you. Either think positive thoughts or neutral thoughts such as knowing that you stand a very good chance of winning your boyfriend back or that the future is undecided at the moment but you wish to get back together with the man that you love.
Positive and optimistic thoughts should be your goal any time you think about your boyfriend. Think of times that you spent together and fun things that you did. Remember how it felt to be together and fill your heart with the knowledge that if he did love you once then he will love you again. Being positive and optimistic is much more attractive than being negative and depressed. Being negative and fearful will repel your boyfriend and make him wonder what he ever saw in you in the first place. Being happy and positive and loving him will make him wonder why he ever left in the first place and want to spend time with you again.
I know that the pain from your breakup can be excruciating. It might be so painful that you have wished that you didn't love him. You might have even tried not loving him anymore. You tried telling yourself that it would be less painful to forget about him and try to move on with your life but your heart simply won't let him go. He occupies your every thought every moment of the day and there's no escape from the pain. Or is there?
Even though this pain might seem to be too much to handle at times the fact is that it is all of your own making. This pain is something that you have created based upon what you think and feel. It isn't really based in reality. It is fear that the man that you love won't be a part of your life in the future and you don't know what the future holds. You have no way of knowing for sure what is going to happen. You actually do stand a very good chance of winning him back and what you feel is impossible is actually very probable if you can get past this fear.
While fear can be a good emotion or motivating factor in your life when you are in a dangerous situation, it isn't very helpful to you when we're talking about a relationship. In a dangerous situation, fear will cause you to do anything to avoid pain or harm. In a relationship though, fear will make you do crazy things out of desperation to try to cling to someone which usually pushes them away even more. This just isn't going to be helpful to you if you love your boyfriend and your goal is to get him back.
But, what can you do to get past this fear? How can you disable it and keep from being motivated by fear and instead be motivated by love? The first step is to understand what is going on and tell yourself that it is only fear based upon what you don't want to happen that is making you feel this way. Remember that the reality of this whole situation is something very different than what your fearful mind is telling you. Either think positive thoughts or neutral thoughts such as knowing that you stand a very good chance of winning your boyfriend back or that the future is undecided at the moment but you wish to get back together with the man that you love.
Positive and optimistic thoughts should be your goal any time you think about your boyfriend. Think of times that you spent together and fun things that you did. Remember how it felt to be together and fill your heart with the knowledge that if he did love you once then he will love you again. Being positive and optimistic is much more attractive than being negative and depressed. Being negative and fearful will repel your boyfriend and make him wonder what he ever saw in you in the first place. Being happy and positive and loving him will make him wonder why he ever left in the first place and want to spend time with you again.
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